BDSM ; Facts about it, how it’s played and its rules

BDSM is a fetish involving the following practices and rules.

B- Bondage ; tying up/restraining your partner

D-  Dominance/Discipline; being in control or using a specific sexual act as a firm of ‘punishment’

S- Sadism/Submissive; beingcontrolled or getting sexual pleasure from inflicted pain, suffering humiliation from someone

M- Masochism; getting pleasure from your own pain, suffering or humiliation.

If you have  ever been blindfolded, or handcuffed or taken part in a consensual exchange of power in a scene,  you’ve taken part in BDSM on some level! Yay!

There’s such a huge spectrum of BDSM acts, and most of us have engaged in some form of BDSM without actually knowing it!

There’s such a HUGE stigma against BDSM, most people think it’s abusive or dangerous and it’s not like that at all!

BDSM is all about consent, communication and trust.

Before engaging in any sort of play, it’s important to know where your partner is at beforehand. Since there’s such a huge spectrum of activities that fall under the BDSM category, what might be a “yes” from someone, could be someone else’s hard no.

Negotiate before a scene to make sure everyone is  on the same page about what’s going to happen within the scene.

Communicate with your partner! Sometimes things get really intense during a scene and it’s hard to really communicate effectively. Try safe words, simple one-word phrases that can let your partner know to slow down or even stop what they’re doing and reassess.

It’s also possible that verbal communication isn’t an option, so its important to discuss non-verbal cues/signals as well just to be sure that everyone can communicate effectively.

Last but not least, trust who you’re playing with. Whether you’re romantically involved with someone or not, it’s important to at least have a base line level of trust with someone. This person can really hurt you, or you could really hurt someone else, so be sure that there’s a form of trust there.

BDSM isn’t really a scary thing, it’s just a little misunderstood.

BDSM can be an intense play, so be aware and know the risks; remember #RACK (Risk Awareness Consensual Kink).

 

Be safe out there ! 🔗⛓😏